December 15, 2011

On Appropriateness

We need to have a little chat. 

A chat about appropriateness.

Do you feel like I'm talking at you yet? Good. Cause I am.

If you want the cliff's notes, just read the following sentence and call it a day, okay?

My uterus is my business and it doesn't really want your opinions.


Let that sink in for a second.

So when you find out someone is very happily expecting AGAIN, here are a couple examples of appropriate responses..


"You are so blessed!"

"I'm so happy for you!"

The following are examples of statements that are considered inappropriate..


"But what about your other children?"

"You'd think y'all would know what causes that?"

"What kind of birth control were you using?"

"You know there's a quick surgical procedure that can prevent that."

Are you serious?! Well knock me up and call me Mrs. Duggar!


But in all seriousness, don't be that person. 


If it wasn't already obvious, today was sort of trying. But then the internet Gods smiled upon me and put this video in my path. And all was well.

(Brief synopsis: So this is what happens when you tell your two gay dads they're going to be grandpas.)


It's almost the weekend!


  1. What a bummer. Comments like that call for a swift kick to the faaccee.

    Kidding, but you catch my drift.
    I hope tomorrow is a better day love.

  2. Oh God, people and their comments. It's just TOO much sometimes, you know? I'm so sorry if anyone said anything inappropriate to you, what a bunch of lame asses.
    I think that your family is absolutely amazing. Have you ever seen "Into the Wild"? My fav quote: "Happiness is only real when shared". Family is a beautiful thing, the bigger the better!

  3. They are all just jealous because you make pretty babies.

  4. People don't know when to keep their mouthes shut. Great post. Love your blog, and your babies are beautiful! Congrats on the bun in the oven!

    Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate. Psalm 127:3-5

  5. Oh Jess, I know how you feel! When we got pregnant with our fourth I must've heard "You guys know what causes that, right?" at LEAST 500 times. I would always fire back with, "Well we weren't quite sure, but now we know for sure how it happens." People always laughed and it was my way of politely being a smart ass right back.

    Sorry to tell you baby 4 is 3 months old and we still get that question and also the pry into how we are going to permanently "fix" the issue. Its funny what people think is their business.

  6. BEST REACTION EVER!!!!!! This makes me wish I had gay in-laws...Wow, so cute!

    I always thought that if I were to have more children (I have 2...and we're done), people would curb they're insensitive comments....apparently people are still assholes at 4, huh? I'm sorry, can I curse on your blog???

    You are truly blessed. Don't let the jerks get 'ya down.

  7. Amen! Can I just say that I second every single comment that was already left on here? They're all correct. :) I know it's hard to actually "not worry about what people say". It still gets to ya'. Just think like this -- you're the one who gets to look at those three (soon to be four) kiddos and think, 'man, how lucky am I?'

  8. I'm glad you can stand by yourself! It's refreshing to see! It's a horrible feeling, dreading the negative reactions of others over something you consider to be such happy news. Never let other people with sticks up their you-know-whats get int the way of your good day! Congrats again!

  9. I love that video, that made my night.

    By the way, when my sister got pregnant with her son 10 years after her daughter and her snarky ex-best friend asked her (stupidly) in person "Why did you think it would be a good idea to have a child 10 years after the first one?" My sister said "I don't know, but you're pissing me off", which was followed by a flying trash can, and a hasty retreat.

    Hope that offers you a good laugh.

    And congratulations!

  10. I am getting caught up in Google Reader, so I know this is so late, but don't listen to idiots! We have had to learn that, too, when we tell people we are adopting internationally - we get - what about locally? I'm like, You're not even adopting - how about you adopt locally? Haha. Some people. And best video ever - love it!



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